Erin Bignell: I am a planner. I wanted to buy clothes, etc. I literally started buying clothes the day I found out I was pregnant with my first!
Jackie Shaffer: I didn’t find out with my first thinking that getting all neutral things would provide for all future children.
Jami Conn: That’s smart thinking, especially if you’re planning to have more children! I didn’t think of that. Our first son was adopted and we knew well before we got him that he was a boy. I had always planned to be surprised for our first, but it didn’t work out that way.
JS: Also, I planned a home birth and found it was a cool incentive to meet my baby.
Ellen Huffmyer: I didn’t find out with any of mine. I loved the surprise!
EB: I wanted to get as much done as possible before the birth so I could just enjoy it after he was here. So we found out with B., even though I just knew he was a boy.
EH: I feel very blessed because we always had everything we needed, including a gender neutral crib that all 4 slept in.
EB: With #2, because they were so close in age, I felt like I HAD to know. It was overwhelming to be pregnant so close together (13 months); I had to know. And so I found out again.
JC: I felt this way, too, even though mine weren’t too close in age. I had an attic full of very boyish clothes and since I hadn’t been pregnant with my first, being pregnant for the first time with a toddler, I felt overwhelmed, too. I couldn’t imagine having a newborn and then finding out I would need new stuff.
JS: I found out with my second because we lost our first, and I just didn’t want to wait that time. For our third, we waited and, as I planned another homebirth, I wanted that extra incentive to push the baby out! The surprise factor was more fun: announcing a gender, name and showing the new face – it was really cool.
JC: We did share with people that we knew we were having a boy, but we didn’t share the name. I think if I did get pregnant again, I probably would still find out. I might not tell everyone, but I’d want to know again. I am definitely in “boy mama” mode and I feel like I’d need to prepare myself to be the mom of a girl!
EH: I also know that some friends or relatives would have gone crazy shopping if I’d had the “wrong” set of clothes, so I never regretted not knowing.
JC: Several clients have declined to be told the gender in case it’s wrong. While that’s rare, it can happen! I had several ultrasound for medical reasons, and I kept asking them to re-check, even though I’d seen “boy parts” with my own eyes!
It seems like there are great reasons to find out and great reasons to be surprised! It’s fun that we live in a time that it’s an option to learn your baby’s gender if you want to know. What did you do?